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Tony de Freitas's avatar

Solid article. When you get new managers, 1:1 structure is always a great indicator of the leadership style and very often a tell-tell sign of the working relationship/partnership

Chris Tottman's avatar

Pro Tip - Try doing walking 121s every now and then. People feel more comfortable sharing without the eye contact 😉 anyone who's raised teenagers will understand where I'm coming from 💙

Bandan Singh's avatar

Great tip - I will try it soon

Dr. Michael Meneghini's avatar

The best 1:1s are shared ownership, not manager-led or passive check-ins.

Dennis Berry's avatar

The best 1:1s aren’t owned by either side, they’re co-created.

Mike Goitein's avatar

I’ve worked with managers who saw 1:1s as a nuisance to be avoided at all costs. Interestingly, they’ve been stripped of their managerial responsibilities.

This is a sensible approach to start taking control of these crucial conversations.

Alex Randall Kittredge's avatar

This is a really sharp breakdown of manager‑ vs report‑owned 1:1s, but I’m curious if the framing might be a bit too binary?

In practice, some of the most effective 1:1s I’ve seen are intentionally “unstructured,” where the lack of a rigid agenda is actually the signal that there’s psychological safety and real trust.

Do you think there’s a risk that over‑systematizing 1:1s (clear owner, explicit agenda, recurring templates) optimizes for consistency at the expense of those messy but high‑value conversations where neither side is quite sure what needs to surface yet?

Bandan Singh's avatar

As I say above: "Think of this flow as a reference flow, not a checklist."

My personal take is that unstructured 1:1s miss out on full potential of the conversations. Good 1:1s between managers and employees can accelerate careers, that is how important I think they are.